Sorry my webcam was not working tried 6 times words were faster than my mouth ! But you get the idea 🙂
Just sharing my thoughts on un supportive men in my life Maybe you can relate I hope not !
I know that many men out there are supportive and helpful.



Having read a few of my blogs, you probably get the close connection between disease and toxins and how essentially disease is formed by excess toxins and a lack of real nutrition. It doesn’t matter who you take in the world that has a disease, the culprit will inevitably be a combination of these two elements – too many toxins and not enough good nutrition. It makes logical sense.


Thing is….


I have always wondered if there was a connection to why our bodies chose to develop its imbalance,(a nicer way of saying disease) within our uterus or the area that essentially defines our womanhood.


Please note: I have split this blog into two parts because it landed up being really long. You can read part two tomorrow.


Why there? Why did it choose to develop there and not somewhere else? On some level I feel it has “chosen” a very personal space and I guess I wonder if there may be some reason for it.


I would like to believe that developing it has nothing to do with co-incidence or chance but on some level I can’t help but wonder if we somehow “chose” this area for a reason. I don’t mean, “chose” like on a conscious level but rather on a subconscious level, like perhaps as a form of protection or that there is a memory or anger associated with this particular part of our bodies.


I have heard many stories of girls with Endometriosis. In many of the more severe cases, there seemed to be a history of sexual abuse. I am not saying by any means that all girls with severe Endometriosis have suffered from sexual abuse but… it did get me thinking that there might be an emotional or subconscious connection here. It is almost like the cells that are within that area of our bodies, which would have been affected by that trauma, got angry or hurt and they are almost weakened because of this.


I guess I am simplifying things a little here but if we look at an individual cell and assume it’s nucleus is it’s brain and within that area it holds some emotions. Within those emotions, it may hold anger or pain or hurt or any emotion and it is this emotion that actually weakens its inner core. Kinda like when you see an old couple that have been in love for their whole lives together and then one of them dies and inevitably the other one dies a few weeks afterwards. It is like the inner emotion of our cells are affected and it is this that causes us to stop living.  There is nothing physically wrong with us but we almost create an imbalance simply by our subconscious thoughts – or in some cases conscious thoughts.

Think of when your adrenalin kicks in – like if you are looking after a dog and it suddenly runs into the street. Your adrenalin kicks in to protect the dog and you react within an instant. In some cases your adrenalin will react quite strongly and you can develop amazing strengths. We have created these abilities by simple thoughts to situations. The same way we create stress in our bodies or might feel anxious in certain environments. It is our mind having a thought, which creates a reaction in our bodies. This is probably why stress contributes to so many diseases and conditions – it is the reaction within the individual cells to that stress that causes the problem.


The other theory we could also think of it is like the stress event itself created the imbalance to occur. For me for instance, I developed my Endometriosis just a short time after my dad was shot and I also suffered from a break-up, which I struggled with hugely emotionally. It is like the events themselves caused an inner stress within my cells and that stress is still active on some emotional level, having not quite dealt with the emotions attached to those events. I guess this is where techniques like Emotional Freedom Technique focus. They focus on releasing the associated emotion of an event and in doing so, essentially lift the burden of emotional stress from the body.

I have personally experienced this feeling of release from emotion. It is incredibly powerful and unbelievably lightening on the body. It is literally like a weight has been lifted from your body – it physically feels like it!


Please read part two of this article tomorrow……


Endometriosis is a female health disorder that occurs when cells from the lining of the womb (uterus) grow in other areas of the body. Endometriosis can be associated with backache, painful defecation and/or rectal bleeding, premenstrual spotting, sciatica, urinary frequency and pain, vomiting, abdominal pain and swelling. Any single endometriosis symptom is troubling, but in combination can be excruciating. Untreated, endometriosis can become the cause of female infertility. Although traditional Chinese medicine has no disease category for endometriosis, it does recognize, categorize, and treat effectively each endometriosis symptom and sign. At her optimal health, a woman’s menstruation should be painless and accompanied by minimal pre and postmenstrual signs and symptoms. The menstruate should be of sufficient volume, a rich, fresh color, and free from clots. The absence of these factors is an endometriosis symptom. If there is free flow, there is no pain: if there is pain, there is no free flow. In Chinese medicine, the uterus and the liver are closely related. The liver maintains patency or free flow of the qi or vital energy of the body. The liver, spleen, and kidney channels run through the pelvis and all can effect menstruation. If any of these channels is blocked, congested or deficient, this will usually manifest in women as some sort of menstrual problem. Chinese medicine believes that each life force has an innate energy flowing throughout its form. This is called “qi” and qi is also believed to move the blood. The qi can become sluggish or stuck due to emotional stagnation or stress. It is the liver’s job to maintain the free flow of qi. Stagnant qi is associated with liver depression. The liver is so intimately associated with the menstrual cycle, liver depression and stagnant qi in women almost always manifests as some menstrual-related problem. Stagnant qi manifests as pain and distention and is dull, crampy or colicky. Static blood may be caused by either long-term qi stagnation or by traumatic injury, including surgery. Its characteristic is localized, fixed, sharp, stabbing or lancinating pain. Blood clots are common when one’s qi is stagnant. The most common cause of qi stagnation is stress, which often results in liver depression. This can also become the cause of female infertility. Stagnant qi causes pain, urinary problems, lower abdominal pain and distention, sciatica, premenstrual nipple sensitivity, irritability, depression, and headaches. Accumulation of cold-causing blood stasis also leads to uncomfortable side effects. Coldness and dampness can be generated by over eating cold, damp foods. Cold foods include anything eaten chilled, frozen and cold. They also include most raw vegetables and fruits, dairy products, oils, nuts, sugar, fatty foods, and citrus fruits. The signs and symptoms of accumulation of cold causing blood stasis in the lower burner include cold, fixed pain in the lower abdomen relieved by warmth, a dark, clotty menstrual discharge, aversion to cold, late or absent period, back pain, diarrhea, vomiting, nausea, loss of appetite. The Chinese natural remedy for endometriosis symptoms suggests avoiding fear, anger and excessive emotions in general. Maintaining an even, free flow of moderate emotions is the same as maintaining an even, free flow of qi and blood. Just prior and during menstruation women should not allow themselves to become fatigued. Do not dwell on negative thoughts or frustrations. Avoid eating cold and raw foods prior to or during periods. Avoid sex during the period as this reverses the flow of qi and blood from down and out to up and in, and tends to cause the formation of blood stasis. Stress reduction, changing jobs, seeking counseling for relationship problems, changing residence, taking more time off, relinquishing unrealistic goals and expectations, and just in general adopting a slower, more open attitude no matter what we are doing can help us with balance. We need to teach ourselves consciously and deliberately to relax. Done daily, at least twenty continuous minutes, can benefit our overall health. Exercise can also speed up a sluggish metabolism and increase production of qi and blood. Aerobic exercise from twenty to thirty minutes every other day increases circulation and body temperature, and aids digestion, appetite, mood, energy and sleep. Exercise greatly reduces the severity of any endometriosis symptom or symptom associated with stagnant qi and blood stasis. Chinese medicine places great importance on diet, especially on cooked as opposed to raw food. Cooking makes the nutrients in foods more easily assimilable, resulting in a greater net gain. Our diet should consist of warm foods. Drinking too much liquid and especially cold liquids with meals can cause stagnant qi. There are also certain foods that should be eaten in great moderation. For example, sugar weakens the spleen and, therefore, the healthy creation of qi and blood. Honey, molasses and maple syrup create dampness and hinder spleen function. People with liver depression and qi stagnation tend to crave the sweet flavor. Other foods that can create dampness are nuts, oils, and fats, chocolate, beef and pork, dairy products, fruits, eggs, and citrus fruits, pineapples, apples and pears. Alcohol is also dampening. One of Chinese medicine ‘s main therapies is herbal medicine. Herbs are an excellent endometriosis natural remedy. Over 5,000 medicinal substances are taken from plants, minerals, and animal by-products. The ingredients are combined into formulas usually comprised of eight to fifteen ingredients that work synergistically. The most common way of ingestion the herbs is through a tea. However, pills, powders, liquids, and dried extracts and syrups are also used. Herbs are free from side effects. Chinese doctors are constantly updating and modifying their patient’s treatment in order to optimize results. Women with endometriosis generally require three to six months of intensive Chinese herbal therapy to achieve substantial amelioration in their condition. The body comprises points located on pathways at which the energy, qi, traveling through them can be manipulated and therapeutically adjusted. This is how acupuncture can treat endometriosis symptoms. Patients may experience the slightest pinch upon insertion and then any of several sensations as the needle touches the point that is below the skin. These sensations can include tingling, heat, distention, heaviness, soreness, or an electrical, nervy feeling. Typically patients will relax deeply and may even fall asleep. Acupuncture and herbal medicine treat effectively: painful menstruation , menstruation which is too little or too large in volume, menstruation which is either too early, too late, or which occurs at no fixed schedule, amenorrhea, PMS, lower abdominal pain, any endometriosis symptom and infertility. Most menstrual problems can be treated by Chinese medicine within three to six months. However, the duration of therapy depends to some extent on the length of time the disease process has been in motion. Patients should expect it to take at least one month of treatment for every year there has been some problem with their period or in their pelvis in general. – See more at:


Talk to your partner. Communication is absolutely essential. Obviously if you are speaking to a man, he will have absolutely no clue about what you are experiencing unless you tell him. He still won’t be able to fully understand but having the conversation is crucial. Men think about sex 99% of the time. The other 1% is reserved for food and sports. They have a true biological need for sex and that need not being met can make for one unhappy bear.Will explaining to him how much sex hurts make his need go away? No, but it helps him to be more understanding . I know it took my husband a while to understand that rejecting sex was not the same thing as rejecting him. Its not that I didn’t want him but I physically could not handle the pain. He did not get that until I explained it to him and I don’t think he is the only man that thinks this way.  He began to understand that just as it was frustrating for him not to get any, it was equally as frustrating for me to not be able to dish it out. As important as it is for you to convey your feelings about how painful sex is impacting your relationship, it is equally important to take the time to listen to your partner’s feelings. While I often get upset during these types of discussion, I know that it is helpful and healthy to allow my husband to put his feelings out on the table as well. He needs to vent and be heard as much as I do.  Communication is so vitally important and it is important that the communication goes both ways.

3- Let go of the guilt and shame. As I stated just a moment ago, when my husband and I talk about our sex life (or lack thereof), I often end up hurt or upset because I feel guilty for not being able to provide like I think I should be able to. We often hold onto these lofty ideals of how we think we should be as women, wives, and mothers (and all the other roles we fill) and most of the time it sets us up for failure as when we can’t achieve these ideals we feel guilty and ashamed. You are not to blame. You are not a failure as a woman, wife, or partner because you deal with painful sex. It is an unfortunate aspect of living with endometriosis and while it stinks big time, it has no impact on who you are as a person. It is important to make that distinction.


Hello Ladies I am having a bad night of pain from even moving a certain way. I decided to take pictures to show an area where I get pain almost daily now. It used to be just a week before and a week after my period but now its almost daily. The circle shows the area sometimes its higher sometimes its lower but always on my right side. Have any of you had pain in a similar area (excuse the pac man pjs ) lol

  •  love the PJs 😀 and yes i got pain on the right side all the time (dont now had hysto)
  •  I often get pain near/on my right ovary. It’s always the right side.  😦
  • Sarah Smith so that area is kinda the same area you got pain, My doctor says its too low but every doctor I go to has different answer. Thank you so much
     I always get pain near my left ovary. It is like a sharp shooting pain. Not fun. I would tell your doctor about the pain that you are having. Hugs ❤
     its the right side because your uterus sits slightly to the right
  •  yes sarah i had pain in that same area sometimes higher sometimes lower but always that area
  • Sarah Smith wow I really am alone in this until I found this group it calms my nerves to know I am not crazy since that’s what my family thinks
  •  Hey I think my right sided pain was my appendix. Its barely visible all wrapped up in endo.
  •  no sarah not crazy kristina very possible
  •  Mine was bad to had my appendix removed with endometriosis
  •  Not crazy!!!  Endo does what it wants where it wants ):
  •  Yep, totally get pain there, worse for me on the right side. I have pretty bad ovarian disease. Could be cysts on your ovaries playing up? Hope you get some relief soon xxx
  • Sarah Smith Thank you so much
  •  I had pain there on and off for years and had my right ovary removed in ’07. I just figured it was adhesions or endo. My appendix was nasty with endo and was removed when I had my excision surgery and hysterectomy.
  • Nancy Thurman It could be appendix or right ovary. Have your doctor order a pelvic ultrasound and check both out. I use to have that pain too. I had endometriosis on my right ovary and cysts. They cysts flow with the menstrual cycle. Mine kept rupturing.  Now I don’t have that.  Had a hysterectomy.  Now menopause.  Hot flashes are terrible.
 yes me too but also on the left, higher up, lower down, in my hips, in tops of my legs making me limp, kidneys, lower back and last but not least towards my bum so it hurts to sit down during my period, just to put the cherry on the top 🙂 xrd my pain is the same area but on the left side. it got so bad that i couldnt lay down. ive jusy gone through 8 weeks of pt and finally have relief
  •  mine is same area but left side my ovary is bad and attached to bowel
  •  This is a GREAT idea for showing my pain specialist where I have the most intense pain!
  • Sarah Smith I always circle my pain to kinda keep a pain diary helps a lot see if it moves

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  • Sarah Smith thank you so much ladies
  •  I get pain there on right and left. Turned out i endo on both ovaries as well as other areas.
     i also have pain there, i have endo on my pelvic side wall.  also i’ve had adhesions that attached my ovary to the pelvic side wall.  i also have daily pain,always on the left side.
  •  I always have pain there too! I am always worried that some day it is going to be appendicitis and I will just think it is Endo pain.
    yes that’s historically my worst pain area. No surgery has ever helped that pain, not even my hyster but since my excision surgery in July and right ovary removal (which was full of cysts and attached to everything is sight) my right sided pain except for tenderness from healing is completely gone right now. endo was also excised but also my appendix was taken out because it was covered with endo too.
     have pain there all the time and I actually ended up having endo on my appendix and it was attached to my abdominal wall and intestine and needed to have it removed. It’s possible for your appendix to be affected.. I still have pain there however.
    That’s mainly where I get my pain too. That’s why before they decided on it being Endo they kept suspecting appendicitis :/ but no its good old endo endo pain 😦
    That’s where mine usually is.
    No, not crazy trust me! I had pain terribly above my belly button and swelling for the past 9 months, it was horrible and my Doctors (even one endo specialist) told me it wasn’t endo or I was making it up. During my excision the Doctor removed all the endo and adhesions and my colon was invovled, and everythign else, bladder, rectum, things were moved outta place, the usual, anyway, guess what pain was gone as soon as I woke up rom surgery? That one! Even in my drugged state I said that pain was gone. And yet all the Doctors told me I was making that up or it was a digestive issue. Nope! So don’t feel crazy, you are not alone!
    that’s the exact same place I get the pain, sometimes it’s bad enough my leg is sore too, and can go high enough that it feels like in my rib cage area, but the constant, never go away pain is same place as yours – hugs!!!!
    pulling, stretching, tearing, that’s adhesions for sure. It gets mixed in with the endo pain, but thats what that is…
    girl I swear to god you have the best stomach ever lol… besides that I have the same issues. Mine will also swell in that area and bruise. It can be endo inflammation or adhesion pain as well. Hard to tell sometimes. you aren’t alone
    awww well trust me I would kill to have your flat stomach. you look fine to me! hang in there girl. Hugs and positive vibes going your way